Goal of Fundamental Disconnection

Throwing thoughts against the wall

Women and men are different from each other, not just physically but in how they think of and how they relate to the opposite sex. (Relax. This isn’t a sex primer or blather about the transgender phenomenon.)

The initial statement seems obvious to most normal people. But people on social media are not normal - self included.

One years-long conversation and one recent one demonstrate the perceptual differences.

1. Older, single women and the attempted induction of fear that women over 30(!) are too old to attract a quality man, let alone marry one.

2. The bear/man controversy. To wit, women were given the hypothetical choice:

In a recent social media trend, women have been asked whether they'd prefer to encounter a bear or a strange man if alone and unarmed in the woods. Surprisingly, most women chose the bear.

It’s the same “conversation,” the same disconnect.

The first point demonstrates that, in general, men have an emotional need for women more than we have for them. But a lot of guys don’t understand this. Hence the threats.

I even had I guy tell me that I was toxic for making sport of the “you’re going to die alone” crowd. And that’s the key. Men believe that women have the same level of fear of dying alone that they have. I think that this is partially demonstrated by the fact that widowers remarry more often than widows do.

Of course, no one dies alone, but that’s beside the point.

And the second point demonstrates the same thing, in a perverted way. Note that I emphasized the word ‘strange;’ many who are ridiculing women about choosing the bear always leave that adjective out. However, the word is essential to understanding the mindset of women who would rather take their chances with a wild animal than with a man who they don’t know.

Recently I’ve read several threads in which women recount the times in which they were sexually harassed or assaulted while at work by strange men.

And even more horrific is the thread in which women - and men - tell stories of how they were almost abducted or how friends of theirs were abducted, sexually assaulted and murdered by strange men. Most of the victims in the stories were 15 years old or younger.

And, sometimes, the perverts were men that they knew. Family members.

Perverted men twist their need for women into rage and violence and all too many women and children have borne the brunt of it.

I think most normal men have sympathy about this, but not enough normal men are out there in the digital space conveying their understanding.

As I was thinking about this, it occurred to me that women in all cultures have been rape victims, chattel, or currency at some point in history. It is only in the last century or so, that that began to change and that’s pretty much a Western phenomenon. And this change has been imperfectly applied. And, no, not imperfectly applied by governments, but imperfectly applied in the thinking of men.

Is that an accident? Or does it mean that men are natural brutal oppressors of the weaker and physically smaller sex? I think you know what my answer is to both questions, but I’ll say it anyway.

No. And no.

Women and men have an age-old enemy, but that enemy has a special hatred of women.

And I will put enmity between thee [the serpent] and the woman, and between thy seed and her seed; it shall bruise thy head, and thou shalt bruise his heel.

-- Genesis 3:15 (KJV)

Of course, that enemy can influence the thinking of men using circumstances and fear. Of course, that enemy can influence the thinking of women using circumstances and fear.

And the enemy wants men and women divided, in rage, hatred and fear. He wants us to have no desire to understand each other. No sympathy and, definitely no empathy.

To what end? So that there will be fewer human beings being conceived and born.